Last week I talked about how so much of what we see, hear, think and do comes from what we are choosing to perceive. After sitting with that for a week I hope you feel, as I do, that almost anything is possible for you and your business.
Which brings us to the next obvious question:
What do you want?
Now if you are like most of the people I work with, this question feels enormous. It can immediately overwhelm you, and make you feel like you actually don’t know what you want.
But that’s not true. You DO know what you want.
I’ve had hundreds of conversations with therapists, coaches and other entrepreneurs where I ask them what they want for their business. At first they say something neutral like “I want to help people” or “I’d like to worry less about getting clients.”
And while I’m not arguing that they do, in fact, want these things (they absolutely do love to help people, and who doesn’t want to worry less?), I also know that there’s a whole lot more to what they want.
The same is true for you.
If we can excavate those details and build a clear vision for your business, then your own brain will be unleashed, it becomes like a heat-seeking missile, hell-bent on recognizing the opportunities that already surround you. Some people call this the law of attraction; I like to call it psychological luck.
That’s what we are doing this week!
I spent the weekend pulling together all the resources that I use with clients to excavate vision, surface competing commitments (competing commitments are the reason you crawl instead of run towards your goals) and unleash the brain.
And I put the whole thing in a guide!
You can grab it by clicking this image:
Let’s get started!
You can, of course, ask the simple question: “What do I want for my life and business?” And perhaps, if you aren’t conflicted or blocked, the details of your desires will come running out of your pen unfiltered. Often, though, this question feel almost unanswerable.
That’s not because you don’t know what you want, by the way. It’s because you’ve gotten tangled up in competing commitments, prior experiences, and other people’s ideas and can’t see it clearly. No worries. We got this.
In that case, we have to trick your brain so it can give up the details. In the guide, there are two exercises for you to try.
#1 The lifetime achievement award
Imagine that it’s 2050 and you are being honored! Everyone has come to Lincoln Center to honor and appreciate you and your contributions. Imagine yourself settling into the box, ready to hear from the people you’ve helped and reminded of the accomplishments along the way.
Free write about that experience.
#2 The lightning round
Sometimes we need to shake off the yoke of our “realism” to get to the heart of what we want. There are things that you’ve decided are just too extreme, luxurious, or unlikely to be allowed.
So you censor yourself.
That kind of “reality check” has no place in vision week! Give yourself permission to just notice what you want. Don’t judge it, or evaluate it’s likelihood. Just acknowledge it.
One of the best ways to get around your “realism” is SPEED. The lightning round is a series of questions designed to be answered within one minute. Not one minute per question, one minute total*.
Clear your head, set a timer and GO!
If you feel yourself slowing down, that’s your mindmanager trying to get you to slow down and be realistic! Speed up, instead.
*You probably wont be able to do it in one minute. It’s fine. Just give yourself one more minute and keep moving!
This is the beginning, not the end
These two exercises will begin to uncover what you want. It will feel good to acknowledge these things to yourself, but don’t be surprised if it also brings up some disappointment, guilt, and worry.
That’s OK, too. We are just getting started!
As we work our way through this week you will have the chance to express those worries, explore that guilt, and reconcile that disappointment.
For today, though, do your best to explore.
Stay in the dream.
Let your imagination wander.
And I’ll see you tomorrow!
PS- Don’t forget to snag the vision guide for your business!
Amanda Crowell, PhD is a cognitive psychologist obsessed with how people make change. She is best known for translating cutting edge research into practical strategies that can be used right away.