Have you noticed that some people really dislike New Year’s resolutions? I used to find this very perplexing, but I think I’ve figured it out. When we look at our resolutions as opportunities to create deeper meaning and purpose in our lives, our resistance can melt away.
There are three questions I go to whenever I want to recenter myself on my Great Work.
One of them often surprises people.
That question is: What makes me feel envious or jealous when others get it/do it/accomplish it?
This question will point directly to what you are missing and yearning for in your own life.
Second: What makes you feel the most alive? You don’t need to blow up your life to create a ton of meaning and purpose.
Lastly: What part of you needs an outlet that isn’t there?
None of us are simple and straightforward. We are, instead, complex and multifaceted. Even when we know we are happy with our lives, we may still feel antsy or unsatisfied and wonder why.
This is not a problem.
It’s just an indication that there is a part of you that still needs an outlet. Making time for these parts can create an outsized feeling of happiness, relief, and ease.